After I ended the relationship with the explanation he was abusive, he researched ‘30 Common Symptoms of Abuse’. He listed them out in a letter and provided commentary for each as they relate to our relationship.

“6. They correct or chastise you for your behavior.

I think when I don’t feel I am being listened to or take seriously, I repeat myself and this comes across as beating a dead horse. In general however, I have a tremendous respect for the way you handle situations and solve problems. You are very self-reliant and that is another aspect of your personality I aspire to be more like.”