Only a handful of people in “real life” know about the abuse. To the rest of my peeps, I probably appear to live a pretty charmed life. And out of those who know about the hell I’ve endured, only three know who he is. I’ve only shared this blog with two people who actually know me. They’re both survivors (amazing, beautiful women with caring souls). Otherwise my mouth has been shut. People have no idea what has been going on behind my closed doors.
I’ve been reading Sharon Thomas’ ‘Healing from Hidden Abuse’ and follow her on Instagram. She recently wrote an article I identify greatly in regards to being private and reserved about this subject. Everyday I think about publicly acknowledging myself as a survivor on social media. I want justice. I want my ex exposed for what he did. I want to warn others of this man to prevent further victimizations. I want to be able to talk about this openly without fear of shame or judgement. I want my power back. I want to educate others. I want to help others. I want to change the stigmas associated with victims and survivors of abuse. I want to do something big with all of this… I have a platform. I have resources. I know people. But I talk myself out of it for all the reasons in Thomas’ article.
‘Five Reasons Why Women Don’t Speak Up’.
- “Only “Crazy Girls” Speak Up
- The “Nice Girl” Mindset
- Fear of a Smear Campaign
- The Risks Outweigh the Benefits
- Culture of Bystander Apathy”
Read the full article by Shannon Thomas LCSW-S here: https://www.plaidforwomen.com/read-post/5-reasons-women-dont-speak/